Argumentative thoughts on sex, gender, and kink by a pair of Bad Feminists.
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ozymandias271:

slatestarscratchpad:

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Of course you can’t recall it. You live inside an information bubble that works very hard to ensure you never hear about it.

Here is a collection of death threats received from women just by one guy who wrote (an admittedly super-horrible) article:

"You’re a disgusting human being, consider a new hobby before you get yourself killed".

"Please die and take your fans with you."

"I hope you rot in a fire - a fire started by a female."

"Literally kill yourself for the better of society."

"The world definitely needs more sick scumbags like you to extinguish from the Earth".

"Death sentence is an appropriate way to deal with people who objectify an entire gender, yes."

"I hope you get run over by a car, they put reverse, and hit you again".

"He is a piece of trash and if you meet him you should kill him."

"I would probably kill this person if I ever saw him."

"Disgusting, idiotic men like you should be killed."

"You are literally scum, I’ve murdered people like you."

"You should be castrated."

"RT this to get the journalist who wrote this killed."

"I hope your dick gets bitten off by a pack of hyenas and then you die of dysentery."

"I’m going to chop off your dick and feed it to you."

"You’re a disgusting piece of shit with a microscopic penis who doesn’t deserve to live on this planet".

And about a hundred more. But at least it’s just manosphere bloggers, who write admittedly super-horrible articles, right?

An article on an anthropologist who studies the biological origins of rape: “As much as he tried to be clear that he was not making an excuse for sexual assaults, he received a series of death threats on his answering machine, and one detractor apparently attempted to break into his home. The university assigned a campus police officer to walk him to and from class.

For writing the "Why We Don’t Need Feminism" Tumblr: "Go fucking die in hell you dumb motherfucker if i ever meet you i’m going to rip your fucking guts out of your motherfucking skull and throw your useless piece of shit body into a fucking pit of maggots"

13 year old boy says it’s not necessarily wrong to make politically incorrect jokes, feminists accuse him of “supporting rape culture”, doxx him, post his home address. “If you can get home addresses for scumfucks, my knife is *awfully* lonely lately.” “Go suck the human shit out from underneath your fingernails and sanitize your outtie-bellybutton-lookin dick, idiot.”

I think Wil Wheaton - and a big chunk of the rest of the feminist community - honestly believe that no member of their in-group has ever done anything wrong, and that evil is purely an out-group phenomenon. They will probably continue to believe this, because they’re trapped in a media bubble that obsessively signal-boosts anything bad that happens to them, and obsessively covers up any bad behavior on their own part. Any attempt to get through the bubble gets reduced inside their own minds to - as he put it - “blah blah both sides blah”.

People ask me “Why do you get so upset at some random person from Tumblr saying ‘kill all men’”? And partly it’s because I’m a man and I’d prefer not to be killed. But partly it’s because I know if I don’t point it out when it’s happening, some ignoramus is going to make exactly this argument, say “Non-feminists = people who make death threats, feminists = kind respectful people, you disagree with me, therefore you are the kind of person who makes death threats and deserve to be hated by everyone.”

Or even better “I got a death threat for making this argument, therefore everyone who disagrees with me are death threateners”

It sounds dumb when you put it this way, but THIS IS HOW SOME PEOPLE ACTUALLY THINK.

Mm. I think that both you and Wil Wheaton can be right?

Because of course people of all ideologies get death threats and rape threats and hate, but it does seem true that women tend to get more and more vicious online hate than other people do. I noticed this when I was doing feminism blogging— when I switched from presenting female to presenting ambiguously, I suddenly got a lot less hate, even as my profile rose. Other friends who have had similar transitions have made similar observations. And I’ve definitely noticed that my male feminist-blogger friends tended to get less hate and death threats and so on than my female feminist-blogger friends. So I would be comfortable saying that that’s a thing.

I mean, my anecdote set is entirely from the feminist blogger community. So it’s possible that for anti-feminists femalehood is a protective factor (perhaps because they’re not seen as ‘real’ misogynists?). But I suspect that “way unpopular opinion” and “femalehood” may stack to increase your likelihood of getting hate and threats— queenshulamit has mentioned that feminists quite like to tell pro-life women that they should get raped and get pregnant, and there doesn’t seem to be an equivalent for pro-life men. 

nostalgebraist:

ozymandias271:

sonata-green:

memetrender:

what if asexuality is just when you have less or no natural capacity for sexually objectifying others’ bodies, and normative ‘sexual attraction’ is built entirely around the subject-object dichotomy of normative sexuality

That might be plausible for demisexuality, but asexuality seems a stretch.

that seems to be… totally eliding the possibility of people who are genuinely not sexually attracted to anyone, normatively or non-normatively?

and I find that sort of problematic, both because it is erasing the experiences of a whole bunch of people and because I am afraid this meme, if popularly adopted, would be used to pressure asexuals into having sex, whether individually or culturally (“no, you aren’t not sexually attracted to people, you’re just not sexually objectifying people, so you should be totally okay with having non-sexually-objectifying sex!”) 

I mean, maybe there are some asexuals who identify as asexual because they aren’t capable of sexually objectifying others, and that is fine and I totally affirm that. But I really don’t think it’s 100%. 

For some weird reason possibly having to do with the medications I was taking when I went through puberty, I am asexual some of the time and not asexual some of the time.

This has nothing to do with more or less objectification.  It’s just that sometimes I am capable of being “turned on” and sometimes I’m not.  When I am capable of being turned on it sometimes involves more objectification and sometimes less; when I am not capable of being turned on, it is a simple lack of a drive, like not being hungry.  (If you are not hungry, you can’t, in general, become hungry by thinking about food differently.)

I’m obviously not the typical asexual (or really “asexual” per se at all), but I’m definitely a counterexample to this if proposed as a complete generalization.

I don’t think I buy it.

I have no idea how the asethetic appreciation that I see asexual people (maybe even most or all of us/them) experiencing is related to objectification.

Like, many/most/nearly all asexuals know when someone is attractive, they just are very unlikely to feel sexually attracted to them, right? To what extent is this aesthetic appreciation related to objectification? I don’t know, but I’m not willing to say that they are totally unrelated.

And some asexuals like porn?

Also, like… maybe sexual attraction to passing strangers is objectification, but I have a hard time believing that partner attraction is always objectification? I suspect this is what is meant by sonata-green’s comment.

But, yeah. This strikes me as an odd claim and I would be surprised to see asexuals making it.

(Haha, I just noticed that both of us weighed in on this post. Let’s be clear, this one was written by the one of us who is demisexual.)

http://ozymandias271.tumblr.com/post/95819701813/sonata-green-memetrender-what-if-asexuality →

sonata-green:

memetrender:

what if asexuality is just when you have less or no natural capacity for sexually objectifying others’ bodies, and normative ‘sexual attraction’ is built entirely around the subject-object dichotomy of normative sexuality

That might be plausible for…

It’s not as nuanced, but mostly the OP just annoys me by embracing the weird meme that asexuality possesses some kind of moral superiority.

"What if asexuals are just the only people who always view people as full moral subjects, unlike the rest of you fallen degenerates?"

Abuse Resources

oliviadurdles:

Does anyone have resources they’re very fond of EITHER for people being abused (ideally, young, female people who are being emotionally abused) OR for people who are interested in helping out with a friend who is being abused? 

A friend is in need. I’ve tossed Why Does He Do That? and When Love Goes Wrong her way, but do you have others?

nostalgebraist:

blurds:

 

cubewatermelon:

Sometimes I think it’s okay to just admit that you like looking at certain kinds of people naked and that’s okay.

Aaron “just got brutally served” Diaz

Daaaaaaaaaaamn

submissivefeminist:

sexincomics:

Your friendly neighborhood sex tips in Sex Criminals #5 

Matt Fraction and Chip Zdarsky.

Fucking love Sex Criminals.

(Source: cynthiavondooms)

Every time I see a post expressing confusion that, for instance, shorts cost as much as pants I wonder aloud whether people understand how little material costs have to do with the modern garment industry.

No, Virginia, bikinis will not cost more or less depending on the amount of material because late-stage, globalized capitalism has fantastically depressed material costs and you’re primarily paying for labor (which doesn’t scale with body coverage), shipping, and a constellation of nebulous intangibles like “brand” and so on.

thespaghettiyeti:

concretefemme:

look at this cop-hating suffragette kitty 

S-S-S-SURFAGETTE KITTY!!


…if only I knew someone who loved both Bowie and puns.

thespaghettiyeti:

concretefemme:

look at this cop-hating suffragette kitty 

S-S-S-SURFAGETTE KITTY!!

…if only I knew someone who loved both Bowie and puns.

(via gentlemantiger)

tragedyseries:

Today I celebrate 8 years with my dearest Lindsey. I hope, dear readers that you are happy today, as I am. Good lion roars to you all.

tragedyseries:

Today I celebrate 8 years with my dearest Lindsey. I hope, dear readers that you are happy today, as I am. Good lion roars to you all.

Maria Bamford is one of the top comedians in the country, but like many other people she suffers from bipolar disorder. Maria has discovered a website that helps her cope with the stigma of treating mental illness by using humor and community.

(Source: zerosara, via paulftompkins)