Argumentative thoughts on sex, gender, and kink by a pair of Bad Feminists.
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nostalgebraist:

ozymandias271:

sonata-green:

memetrender:

what if asexuality is just when you have less or no natural capacity for sexually objectifying others’ bodies, and normative ‘sexual attraction’ is built entirely around the subject-object dichotomy of normative sexuality

That might be plausible for demisexuality, but asexuality seems a stretch.

that seems to be… totally eliding the possibility of people who are genuinely not sexually attracted to anyone, normatively or non-normatively?

and I find that sort of problematic, both because it is erasing the experiences of a whole bunch of people and because I am afraid this meme, if popularly adopted, would be used to pressure asexuals into having sex, whether individually or culturally (“no, you aren’t not sexually attracted to people, you’re just not sexually objectifying people, so you should be totally okay with having non-sexually-objectifying sex!”) 

I mean, maybe there are some asexuals who identify as asexual because they aren’t capable of sexually objectifying others, and that is fine and I totally affirm that. But I really don’t think it’s 100%. 

For some weird reason possibly having to do with the medications I was taking when I went through puberty, I am asexual some of the time and not asexual some of the time.

This has nothing to do with more or less objectification.  It’s just that sometimes I am capable of being “turned on” and sometimes I’m not.  When I am capable of being turned on it sometimes involves more objectification and sometimes less; when I am not capable of being turned on, it is a simple lack of a drive, like not being hungry.  (If you are not hungry, you can’t, in general, become hungry by thinking about food differently.)

I’m obviously not the typical asexual (or really “asexual” per se at all), but I’m definitely a counterexample to this if proposed as a complete generalization.

I don’t think I buy it.

I have no idea how the asethetic appreciation that I see asexual people (maybe even most or all of us/them) experiencing is related to objectification.

Like, many/most/nearly all asexuals know when someone is attractive, they just are very unlikely to feel sexually attracted to them, right? To what extent is this aesthetic appreciation related to objectification? I don’t know, but I’m not willing to say that they are totally unrelated.

And some asexuals like porn?

Also, like… maybe sexual attraction to passing strangers is objectification, but I have a hard time believing that partner attraction is always objectification? I suspect this is what is meant by sonata-green’s comment.

But, yeah. This strikes me as an odd claim and I would be surprised to see asexuals making it.

(Haha, I just noticed that both of us weighed in on this post. Let’s be clear, this one was written by the one of us who is demisexual.)

http://ozymandias271.tumblr.com/post/95819701813/sonata-green-memetrender-what-if-asexuality →

sonata-green:

memetrender:

what if asexuality is just when you have less or no natural capacity for sexually objectifying others’ bodies, and normative ‘sexual attraction’ is built entirely around the subject-object dichotomy of normative sexuality

That might be plausible for…

It’s not as nuanced, but mostly the OP just annoys me by embracing the weird meme that asexuality possesses some kind of moral superiority.

"What if asexuals are just the only people who always view people as full moral subjects, unlike the rest of you fallen degenerates?"

Abuse Resources

oliviadurdles:

Does anyone have resources they’re very fond of EITHER for people being abused (ideally, young, female people who are being emotionally abused) OR for people who are interested in helping out with a friend who is being abused? 

A friend is in need. I’ve tossed Why Does He Do That? and When Love Goes Wrong her way, but do you have others?

nostalgebraist:

blurds:

 

cubewatermelon:

Sometimes I think it’s okay to just admit that you like looking at certain kinds of people naked and that’s okay.

Aaron “just got brutally served” Diaz

Daaaaaaaaaaamn

submissivefeminist:

sexincomics:

Your friendly neighborhood sex tips in Sex Criminals #5 

Matt Fraction and Chip Zdarsky.

Fucking love Sex Criminals.

(Source: harleyquinnism)

Every time I see a post expressing confusion that, for instance, shorts cost as much as pants I wonder aloud whether people understand how little material costs have to do with the modern garment industry.

No, Virginia, bikinis will not cost more or less depending on the amount of material because late-stage, globalized capitalism has fantastically depressed material costs and you’re primarily paying for labor (which doesn’t scale with body coverage), shipping, and a constellation of nebulous intangibles like “brand” and so on.

thespaghettiyeti:

concretefemme:

look at this cop-hating suffragette kitty 

S-S-S-SURFAGETTE KITTY!!


…if only I knew someone who loved both Bowie and puns.

thespaghettiyeti:

concretefemme:

look at this cop-hating suffragette kitty 

S-S-S-SURFAGETTE KITTY!!

…if only I knew someone who loved both Bowie and puns.

(via gentlemantiger)

tragedyseries:

Today I celebrate 8 years with my dearest Lindsey. I hope, dear readers that you are happy today, as I am. Good lion roars to you all.

tragedyseries:

Today I celebrate 8 years with my dearest Lindsey. I hope, dear readers that you are happy today, as I am. Good lion roars to you all.

Maria Bamford is one of the top comedians in the country, but like many other people she suffers from bipolar disorder. Maria has discovered a website that helps her cope with the stigma of treating mental illness by using humor and community.

(Source: zerosara, via paulftompkins)

We have our first MRAnon. I can’t say I’m not, in some vague way, pleased.